We all know that person in our life who we envy because they seem to be able to let things roll off of their backs so easily. You know, the one who just doesn’t care. If you are the opposite and struggle to let things go, you may have to retrain your brain. The difference between why you care so much and why someone else doesn’t is a combination of your personality style and what you were brought up to believe.
I have always been a highly sensitive person. It is a tortuous way to live. Bound by worrying about what others think, whether or not they’re judging me, and whether or not they think I’m a good person, I am often left in a position of being either overly stepped on or overly neurotic. I set out to find the answer myself about how to stop caring so much, and what I found is that it is all about changing your mindset, which is much easier said than done.
How to train your brain to not care about what other people think
If you want to stop caring, it really is about making some big changes in your belief system. The art of not caring doesn’t mean that you’ll be transformed into a mean, heartless person, but rather, you’ll free yourself from the burden of constantly feeling the need to please others. Without further ado, here are 15 tips to help you learn how to dismiss negativity from your life.Realize that everyone judges people, including you.
I always love when I hear someone say that they aren’t judgmental. Everyone judges. It’s human nature. In fact, it is literally in our genetic makeup. Judging people stems from our instinctual tendency to put things into categories. It’s a survival method that we use to help us determine if something is a threat, and then to react to it if necessary.
Judging alone is not the problem. Judging without necessary cause, however, becomes someone else’s problem, not yours. It’s their loss that their unfounded negativity has caused them to miss out on a loyal, caring, and kind friend such as yourself.
Stop thinking that you are so important that people consider you at all. The hardest thing for really sensitive people to understand is that people typically don’t care about them ten minutes after they are gone. If you are a sensitive person, the key to not caring is to stop thinking that everyone is as “considerate” as you are.Most people really don’t take the time to think about you for more than ten minutes after you’ve left the room and are erased from their frame of reference. Stop thinking that everyone is so obsessed with you that you’ll be the constant focus of their conversations.
Be honest, and you can’t go wrong. The trap most of us fall into is that when we aren’t honest, we end up feeling guilty and self-conscious about what others will think about us. The best way to stop thinking that people are judging you is by being a person who has nothing to judge. If you believe that you are a decent person and have done the right thing, then you won’t care about what people think. Feel good about yourself, and don’t let anyone else make you feel any differently.
Understand that you are not responsible for holding the world on your shoulders. Not everything is your fault. There are things in this world that, no matter how hard you try, will not go your way. Remember one thing: the world is not fair. No matter how hard you try to make it a fair and just place, you never will.
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